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左右心情

儿子拿到鋥亮的新车不到半小时,在Shopping Center停着时,不知被谁的车给碰了,左侧车门留下了2~3黄豆大小的Chips,那个心痛心痛啊。

“车,像是被人用刀狠狠地划了一道。。。”线的那端儿子有点郁闷,到昨天为止这辆车刚两个星期。
“没事吧?!”,我问这话不光是指车,还含另一层意思(他的Feeling)。毕竟是他用了几个暑期在实验室赚来钱买的车。

小时候的他,比较会认真。有一次家里的小猫抓破了他的衣角,他,不依不饶地紧紧尾追着猫吼吼:这是我妈咪给我的圣诞礼物,你知道吗?!
还记得第一次带他回国,走在街上有人不停地按车喇叭,气得他双脚跺得嗵嗵响。“臭儿,人家不是冲着你来的哟”,呵呵,当时我是心疼他会把自个的脚给跺痛了,不值。
。。。

我曾对他说,要作为一个真正的男子汉不但要有责任心,遇事还要拿得起,放得下。
我想如是个女儿或许就不是这么说了,或许自己偏又是女人才有这番体会?
以后几年,他好像变了,变得淡定了。

“嗯,没事的!一会儿我用Touch up Paint 试试看。”语调几乎感觉不出起伏,但却有着淡淡的笃定。我心安然。他,找到的不仅是解决问题的办法,还找到了平衡心理的桥梁。

不顺心时,我会用幸好当时没有造成一个更大的损失来安抚、解脱自己,这似乎没有什么逻辑可言。可我知道,一个已受伤害的人,最好甭和自个较劲过不去。
有些事的发生,不是我们所能够控制。但是,我们多少可以左右自己的心情,尽可能在让痛苦还在很小的时候就消灭它。
Let the past go and move on,

Tomorrow is another day
.

18 responses

  1. Y N

    这个漫画很好玩儿!哈哈!你很会教育你儿子呢^ ^!其实如今这个社会好像儿子比较难教育,女儿更让家长操心。“遇事还要拿得起,放得下”这个需要在生活中不断修炼的。我当时买新车的时候也是让人给刮了几下,后胎也让人给轧了,也是很生气呢!

    September 4, 2008 at 9:03 pm

  2. Y N

    儿子比较难教育,女儿更让操心~,你这话归纳的很经典啊!
    人,气还是要生的,不能憋,不然会得病的。但不能气过久,第二天醒来,最好忘的差不多了。^+^

    September 4, 2008 at 9:05 pm

  3. linger

    好有哲理的漫画故事。
    确实是这样,放大痛苦只能让自己更痛苦,不如干脆地了断痛苦。

    September 4, 2008 at 9:22 pm

  4. jasmine

    我家的臭儿什么时候可以真的长大呢?真希望他也能象你家大臭儿那样有出息呢。

    September 4, 2008 at 9:33 pm

  5. Shu

     
    You know I am going to ask this question———-what car did your son get?
     
    Whenever possible, I make a point of parking away from everyone.  我宁愿多走两步,也不愿把车停在别人的旁边, because you never know if some moron is going to ding your doors.
     

    September 4, 2008 at 9:46 pm

  6. Y N

    SHU,it is Scion TC.
    I\’ve seen them all over the US, but not in Canada. Looks like Toyota has NO PLANS to market the car in here. Don\’t know why exactly~
    多谢宁愿多走两步的策略,呵呵。

    September 4, 2008 at 10:13 pm

  7. Y N

    苓儿,确实是这样,有时候人糊涂些好。
    Jasmine,当你的小臭儿变成大臭儿时。*-^

    September 4, 2008 at 10:20 pm

  8. Shu

     
    Scion TC 改装机械增压后,可以达到311+马力,很强大。
     
    但是改装车是要花很多钱的。Don\’t sound like your son is a car guy like myself.
     

    September 4, 2008 at 11:26 pm

  9. Y N

    Well I guess you are kind of right. Tell me what makes you think that way *_^

    September 5, 2008 at 8:00 am

  10. Shu

     
    Scion TC, and in fact, anything out of Toyota\’s offering, really can\’t be considered as Sporty.  They are fuel efficient, and practical.
     
    In other words, Sports cars are usually NOT fuel efficient and practical.
     
    Given your son\’s rather adequate financial status (my wild guess), and considering he\’s smiliar to me in age, IF he was a car guy, he would\’ve picked up something like a Nissan 350Z, Infiniti G37, Mazda RX-8, Audi TT, or even the classic American pony car——Ford Mustang.
     
    But he picked the Scion Tc instead.
     
    Hence my guess, haha.
     

    September 5, 2008 at 9:24 am

  11. Y N

    Ha ha, even more proof that you guys are so different…如你在多的话,能相互认识一下就好了。

    September 5, 2008 at 8:24 pm

  12. Shu

     
    Are you kidding me.  If I were in Toronto, I\’d be over to your house every week.  You make LOVELY and SEDUCTIVE pastries.
     
    Getting to know your son would be just another bonus =)
     

    September 5, 2008 at 9:22 pm

  13. Y N

    Thought I\’ve known you for a while, so here is talking about you and him.😉 不过么,你来了多,定会让你吃个撑,因为吃了这家还有那家涅~~~

    September 5, 2008 at 9:47 pm

  14. Shu

    Ha!  Thank you for the kind offerring.  Perhaps I could convince Jasmine to cook up some nice dishes for me as well.
     
    I\’ve never been to Toronto before, yet I\’ve got quite a few friends there.  I really should make a point and visit one of Canada\’s most significant city.
     

    September 5, 2008 at 11:54 pm

  15. mei

    是,很多时候我们不能左右他人或事态。但,我们能左右自己的心情
     
    问候N姐

    September 7, 2008 at 5:43 pm

  16. Xihu2005

    忙累了一天,  it is too late to call you when all is done. I read your blog instead. I really like the 左右心情 . Things like that can happen anytime, regardless of your like or dislike. The difference is how we handle it. Very often, we lost control and reacted angrily, in vain. However, the mature and wise thing to do is to control ourselves as described in your blog. It is great to know that your son learns to handle such thing, probably under your influence. It also indicates that your son has grown up.
     

    September 7, 2008 at 11:02 pm

  17. Rong

    他是大人了!……

    September 8, 2008 at 4:03 am

  18. ECHO

    哈,喜欢这个漫画。
    今晚我就踩扁“它”,决不过夜:)
     

    September 8, 2008 at 8:14 am

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