Life is all about seizing the moment and being happy.

亲密有间

 

有这么一个寓言:有两只豪猪,因为天气太冷,想以身体靠近取暖,但一方的刺扎到另一方的身体时,大家都感到疼痛难耐,只好分开。可是天气越来越冷,为了取暖两只豪猪不止一次尝试靠近又分开,如此反复多次,终于找出不会刺到对方,又能取暖的恰当距离。

有情人走到一起,亦是一种崭新生活的建立开始。像一艘航行的船,风平浪静中也会有风高浪急,此时的我们彼时都在变换着角色,调整方位。

那么,若真是找得到豪猪与豪猪之间的这个既保暖、又刺不到的最佳的"距离",是否也便享受到了豪猪的最大的温暖与最大的幸福呢?!

至少,我认为这是一种亲密有间的境界。

因为我看到,过分地要求手拉手,心连心,像捧在手中的沙子,攥的紧了,反而更少,结果往往是最大悲剧的开始。

因为我知道, 绝对想占有对方的时间甚至思想,一味地以自己的标准要求对方,隔三差五争论一番,结果往往是彼此落个不快。

因为我深信,人和人之间的合适距离,不完全是地理上的,而是心理上的。否则,即使赤身相对,也是天涯海角。只有建立彼此间的体贴和尊重,适当地给对方留以空间,才是真正的和谐相处之道。

 

 

 

彼此间若能好好把握这一尺度,随着岁月的磨砺,

终究会找到

重叠与分开的最佳比值,获得最大的相爱。

 

12 responses

  1. 铃铛

    Happy valentine\’s day~

    February 13, 2008 at 11:44 pm

  2. linger

    嗯~记住了!
    做两只快乐、自在的豪猪o(∩_∩)o…
     
     

    February 14, 2008 at 1:37 am

  3. ECHO

     
    我不怕扎,求你了,离我近点吧。。哈哈
     
    节日快乐。到你家总是很舒服。虽然我懂你这篇的意思,也视为真理,可是因为心情好,就一定要胡言几句才能表现我心情好。。:)
    希望把好心情也带给你了^_^
     

    February 14, 2008 at 9:23 am

  4. jasmine

    Can\’t agree more with you!
    Happy Valentine\’s Day!

    February 14, 2008 at 9:23 am

  5. mei

    有道理,
     
    今天就开始学做那个饼干了.
     
     

    February 14, 2008 at 9:26 am

  6. Y N

     
    Happy Valentine\’s Day to all of you, too!!! ~( ̄▽ ̄)~( ̄▽ ̄)~
     
     
     

    February 14, 2008 at 9:52 am

  7. Y N

     

    Any calendar year where the last two digits can be divided by 4 is a LEAP year…

    During these years the custom is that the women may propose marriage to the men..

    Leap years are when the month of February has 29 days…

    So women do your proposing and good luck…
     

    February 14, 2008 at 10:01 am

  8. Y N

     
    Happy Valentine\’s day to you!
    Happy is all yr around not just on V-day…
     
     

    February 14, 2008 at 10:05 am

  9. m

    happy valentine\’s !

    February 14, 2008 at 2:21 pm

  10. Y N

     
    Russ
    Thanks! Now I  know what is the leap year!So, just go for it(Hope it\’s not too later yet), It is an exciting way to meet others, especially on Valentine\’s day!
     
    明明如月
    你家的小妞蹦头重脚轻的,开心哟!
     
     
     
     

    February 14, 2008 at 8:14 pm

  11. mei

    娜姐,那个椰丝我下去没买到,就放了你上次送给我的那个红色的干果.我记得以前吃过提子饼干,所以就试着改变了一下.
     
    吃起来有点咬劲.不像椰丝那样融和,香.下次不能放了,要放就放那种小小粒的巧克力.好像做巧克力饼干一样.
     
    呵呵,我把你方子贴过去,好吗?

    February 15, 2008 at 7:29 pm

  12. Y N

    阿妍
    你做的真的很棒,酥松的好像看看都会掉渣哦!
    有道理!不过,你有机会还是试试椰丝,香、酥可口哟!
    方子尽管拿去,只要喜欢!^_^
     
     
     
     
     

    February 15, 2008 at 7:48 pm

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